Hooke's Law & My Life

This is a private entry.


Hooke's law state that the strain in a solid is proportional to the applied stress within the elastic limit of that solid.


And I positively believe in a few aspects of my life I have reached that limit. I may not be as flexible as before or as I should be anymore.


Ask anyone who know me, they can tell you how tolerant I am. I never fixed a specific expectation, I'm always willing to give and take, to revise and make do with whatever possible and convenience to others.


I don't know how this can happened, but I suspect it was caused my "be kind and be merry attitude" I easily give in to others even if it compromise my own needs and
demands.


I end up being a wussy. And the one who constantly end up eating his own humble pie. Sometimes, I'm fed-up with this theatric and decided I must take a more proactive approach for myself. To protect my own right.


However, it is easier to be said than to be done. These are among the most important parts of my life and I need to be careful. I don't want my emotions make me regrets later.


But now, I want myself to realize that no matter how important it is, human is dynamic. You cannot put a parameter and expect it to stay like that like a machine does.The
parameter given to human will expand and shrink depending on how you act.


I have to learn how to balance, learning the art of subtlety so that I don't cause unneccessary havoc.


To put it bluntly, on what I'm trying to say;


"Respect yourself, and people will respect you"


I regards myself very well, and in return people do take me well.


But in these few critical aspect, something is lacking. I know I can never change how people perceive me, but I have to change myself first.


So, that's mean more self respect for me, from me.


That's I have to remember.


Err,I'm sorry if this post raise more questions than answers. First and foremost, What is these critical aspects? Hmm,like a differential equation, there is a common general solution for everyone reading this.


"The answer is in you. Yeah, although it's about me, but the answer is in you"


Think about it.


Regards from Sabri,
Whoever I'm to you.

Blasting The Ignorant(s)

Initially I planned to launch a full scale assault (in Malay) on a certain ignorant individual/s whom after time and time again failed to grasp the simple concept of information sharing in this online world. Although this is typical&very well expected, considering I was living in Asia where traditional and conservative practice are observed, I hate to see people who "supposed" to understand this simple rule has this "orthodox" mentality.

Sadistically, it come from an Internet Marketer wannabe... And whatever he called himself as. (the first blood was drawn) No stopping now. Too much chance has been given.

But as this is particularly a very old issue, let me go easy and avoid from spending too much time on it.

What is blog? Why do you blog?
Does blogging means you are publicizing yourself?
Do that mean you are an attention seeker?

(fellow bloggers, if you too wish to join me lambasting this fellow friend, just write a post in your blog, leave a link at the comment section/trackback... and I will link to your particular post)

I have even wrote about this one year ago, because I see this "I ashamed of you" mentality and for that I have prepared a disclaimer long ago (two actually);

1) Why I blog (among my first few entries)
2) Why I used English (written after my blog first anniversary)

But now, let focus on today issue's issue.

I'm blogging not for "publisiti murahan" or cheap publicity (directly translated in English) but as a medium to express myself. Ignorant(s) or perhaps fool(s) may not realize this,because you are too ignorant to do such things,but people DO READ blog.

And I don't care who read my blog. Mr. President of US, Dato' Ali of anything, Dr. Husin of something or only my few old friends. They all mean something to me, BECAUSE they DO understand me. And on top of that although distances do us part, WE ARE A COMMUNITY and we keep constant contact with each other.

If not by phone, by email. If not by email we visit each other blog, made appropriate comments and we know they know. And blogging in these way is a form of communication.

Yeah, it must be hard to understand if you are not involved, or just another OPPORTUNIST blogger for a blurry cause, hampered some more for being a technophobe. But anyway, please RESPECT others. Whatever your reason you are.

So what if I wrote my personal views, comments or anything in my own blog? You want to voice your own view? GET YOURSELF A BLOG THEN! write whatever you want. I pity my fellow bloggers who have to give in to peer pressure sometimes, but as I say, Sabri Online rule his kingdom while Sabri Offline live in a community. Meet your match then. Welcome to the ring.

Enough of the words. Let's delve in content.

Blog is powerful. And it is the latest trend in the world. It also gave birth to another new trend (RSS). But for your record, I jump into the board well before it's the hippiest thing in Malaysia. Thus, I'm in quite a comfortable position now.

For your information, blog is technically convenient for a lot of people. Novice, experts and also to Bots (read:Search engines Robots) For this reason, more and more people, companies jump into the bandwagon to capitalize this. With blog, you not only can influence people opinions, you can also make business! (large or small)

After seeing Google's success with Blogger.com , Yahoo! launch their Yahoo!360 and MSN follow suits with their Spaces. Note however, this is the giants. There are lot more, such as Friendster, etc. Even companies has started churing their own official blog, (some of them moderated by the top senior executives). To say the least how widespread blog has become.

And I have my own blog. Although I'm just like a drop of water in a vast ocean and no one heard me (as you insist) I can say I can easily help you establish anybody online. It's not a promise, it's a guarantee! Haha, too complex to fathom, Mr Ignorant?

Proof. Let me show you how I utilise my blog's power to my own benefits. (there are 2 ways)

Let start with the way I like the most. The slow & berhikmah" way.

My blog is a proven thing with search engine. Whenever I have a new website launched, I will put the link in my blog. Usually will not attract human attention but it will make do with Search Engines. Tadaa!

Your website has just listed in less than 24 hours in All Major Search Engines. Go ask any new webmaster and ask them what is the norm waiting period for you to be listed in Search Engine? I beat it by hundred thousands percent!

Then now, I have another website that co-support each other. Whenever I launched another new website, I have made ready 2 platforms to support the new website. And the same method goes on and on.

And I finally have a networks of websites supporting each other and by this method your imagination is the limit.

(I'm talking about the smaller scale, the normal level here, of course there are another shortcuts to achieve this, but normal people like Mr. Ignorant, you should understand his concept!)

There are another way, which I don't like very much and never do it, but it still have weight. Give me keywords with low to medium competition, and I will made this blog get noticed on the search engine for that keywords. Hence, this opened up a new possibility. What you want? We can work it off.

So, I hope that Mr. Ignorant you can fully comprehend what blog are with this public message. Although I have frequently told you what blog are, but as you are too stubborn. I hope you can finally get the message.

PEOPLE DONT BLOG ONLY FOR MONEY. AND NOT EVERY PEOPLE ARE AS OPPORTUNIST AS YOU. PLEASE BEAR IN MIND.

My last word, get yourself a blog, AND mind your own blog.

A Few Cents From Tronohians

I have the pleasure of surfing UTP's grapevine last night, and I like to share a few advice given by thr respective nicks if you have problems with your significant other.. ;)


SiLuMaNiaX
it seems like si gf tu da bosan n nyesal, so si bf kene check balik laa.. n si gf tu pun taley la nak arap bf je improve, die pun kene improve gak..time planning? ala, itu kene managed btui2 la.. ckp la kat bf tu, sure die paham..


Obefiend_Weiland


TO ALL THE MEN IN THE HOUSE


women talks...... they talk about everything to their friends. unlike us gonad carriers they dont have the " hal rumahtannga" rule. derang cerita je ke kawan derang. pastu kawan derang lak bukan jenis nak selamatkan rumah tangga. lagi nak luluhkan kalu boleh. biasa la. pompuan ni kawan dia bukan suka pun kawan dia tu happy sangat. ntah kenapa. mmg banyak pompuan camtu. tak paham seh..


aku kawan awek cun takde pun sakit hati. siap kata " b'tuah la si BUtet tu.. awek cun..."


so anyway........ kalau aku...... aku bincang cara baik ngan awek aku tuh. tanya dia ape aku salah. ape leh aku improve.. DSB. bak kata penganalisa perkahwinan..


Communication is VITAL in marriage


so banyakkan berbual dengan TEMAN anda. pasal kalau tak berbual terbuku di hati.


mangifera


apa yang aku nampak dari masalah ko ni, dua2 masih rasa terkongkong dan tak mampu nak lepaskan rasa hati masing2. well, maybe takut melukakan pasangan masing2. tp dalam masa yang sama, ko melukakan hati ko.


apapun, bawaklah bertenang dan bincang utk carik solution. jgn emo2, jgn blame on each other dan bukakkan minda, telinga dan mata utk memahami, mendengar dan melihat apa yang dirasakan oleh partner anda tu.


just my 2 cent opinion....


baby_T


Wow..this is really a coincidence for both of them. Firstly, i think the bf has give a good response..bukannye dia reply kutuk2x ke marah2x ke kan eventhough dia menyamar..huhuhu..


Obviously,it's all about COMMUNICATION. Well, what i found about this couple is that maybe each of you does not want to be hurt and hurt each other.But guess what, if the couple keeps on hiding what each of them does not satisfied with,there will be a big problem later..So,anything that you think you don't really like or dissastified with your partner,you better tell him or at least give him a hint. It is easier to say or talk like this,but i know sometimes you must communicate at the right time and the right place but don't wait too long since it will be a burden for you (any couples as well). later okesh?


Sometimes, maybe the partner is afraid to express the truth about her/his partner because he/she might think that their partner can't accept it..but you know what..it is really okesh to honestly tell your partner although at first he/she might difficult to accept it and i am sure if he/she really loves you, he/she will understand it..Tp cara b'ckp tu kene la btol..jgn la ckp kasar2x...kene ckp baik2x..memule bg hint dulu ke kalo dia tak phm,baru la cakap terus terang tp cara cakap tu kena gaye la..gaye2x intro tu kene elok cket la..well selalunye la you will never get the second chance to get a good 1st impression.So gaye intro tu maybe leh cmni (based on my communication style) :


"Saye ada benda nak bincang dgn awk..Saya tak marah ke menyalahkn awk ke dan awk pun jgn la salah paham yekk?Saya tak perfect dan awk pun tak perfect,so kita sama2x wat salah kekdg kn?So, sbrnrnye...."


Guess what??the result of my communication style tu??He smiled at me and say..


" thank you for being honest with me..sorry cause tak sangke plak cm2..and.....(ade la sambungan yg pnjg tp he gave me a good response maybe sbb dia org yg openminded kot) huhuhuhu..


Lg satu..bile dah kapel ni,don't ever regret that you have met him/her..Once you and your partner start your relationship,both of you must take the risks and bare with it..perjuangkan la b'same and perbetulkan la b'same...that's the good way of being a couple because you have each other to share your thought and whateva la yekk.


KiRa_X105


from my point of view, relationship is a test of patience. the more patience you have, the stronger the relationship will be. But some times, it is best to have a few small fights just to spice up the relationship. just don't drag it too long.


Personally it's to protect your status, telling your other partner that you're are still in control and prevent him been overboard. you're not a play toy or a puppet, so don't get yourself being ruled or forced to do something you don't want. you have your own self respect and dignity. So protect your self. as for the guys, small fights are there because sometimes it shows how much you cared about your partner. but if you love her so much.. it's better to advise her then to spark a fire on the oil. proof is the best support towards the arguement. so have proof rather than rumors or talks


i've seen many couple come and go.. some with a steady relationship for so long suddenly pops off. some with still on till today. personally i believe a couple without quarrel wouldn't last long. why? there is no feelings towards each other party.. when on quarrels, they won't see each other. hatred overshadows the love between them. it's basically a test of patience. after sometime.. they will start missing each other thus creating a stronger bond in the relationship.


So it all depends on what both of you argue about? and it's best that the 2 of you should sit down and discuss ways to overcome the barrier. DO not try to act without the consents of your partner.. this creates a sense of insecure..


MoEsHa


Gaduh....aku pernah menghadapi zaman2 ni yg hampir setiap hari gaduh jz becoz mmg kitorg xsefhm dlm byk benda but sumhow managed to stay 2gether after over 1yr...tips nye? well, bab tegur2...berpadah2 coz bila your other half yg tegur sure susah giler nk terima so better slow talk bgi environment tu aman cket..jgn time romantik giler timbul lak tegur-teguran...rosak environment...den jgn time2 nk test or exam or time byk giler keje nk siapkan...biar ms yg sesuai n give time tuk dia absorb n terima teguran dgn betul....


bab2 gaduh...try to respect even marah mcmmana skali pon...aku penah gaduh smpi masuk parit..hahah...xsengaja lah..tu pon tergelak sbb terjatuh lam parit ms gaduh...pastu ok blk...jgn men tinggi2 suara..cuba lah..tpi klu da jadi tuh....amalkan ni.....FORGIVE AND FORGET...takyah nk timbul2 lgi pastu...kblkgn ni aku ok jek...gaduh kejap...den baik balik...xyah pki2 lgi..


Megi^Tom Yam


Me, dulu pn pernah jugak macam ni, tiap2 hari misti gaduh. Asal jumpa je gaduh, asal jumpa je gaduh. Sampai tak nak jumpa sebab tau misti akan gaduh. tapi pastu kitorg ckp btol2, have a heart to heart talk.. baru la ktorg paham each other. kan ke ade dua org dlm relationship. so, dua2 org must contribute to make it happen, x leh ade alasan langsung! biler dah ckp tu, dah citer apa masing2 pnya opinion, buat! never say you can't or not good enough... sejak tu, kitorang x pernah gaduh2 dah... and we are getting married after convo. hehe... lamer tu.. tapi bile kenang balik, kelakar giler time tu...


must_ter_qee


4 awek :cuba ingat balik masa ko memula dulu...xkeash aa saper tekel saper..tp, ingat balik aa masa memula pucuk nk tumbuh..ganer ko layn balak ko, ganer balak ko lyn ko..jgn anggap, biler da kapel, dierakan setia jer ngan ko, and ko xpyah layan dier..bhy tu...cuba tgk cr pemikiran balak ko, tgk stail dier caner..klau stail dier suka manjer2, try la layan sket..tp, ko kena kontrol aa...br aa balak ko manjer xlebih2..nasihat aku, jgn ego sgt, try terima cr alak ko tu.


4balak:
cuba ikut angin awek ko..kalu dier jenis yang xsuka manjer2, jgn a slalu manjer2..sekali skala bley a kot..coz, bg aku, klau ko wat mender yg dier xsuka slalu, lagi a dier menyampah...but, klau ko wat mender tu kekadang,at least terbuka gak ati dier utk terima perkara tu....alaa...slow and steady..nasihat aku, nk manjer bley, tp jgn slalu...try to control urself..terima cara dier tp pastikan ko terima dgn ikhlas..


baby_T (again)


Eseymen....adushh..slalu ade kes cmni...ish2x ni arr kesh yg slalu aku dgr..kalo pakwe tu syg awek dia..awek dia plak wat hal n byk songeh n ngengade..tp kalo awek dia bapak la cyg giler2x kat pakwe dia..pakwe dia plak kaki pompuan dan memcm la..


for the gf of the story 2...slalu pompuan ni kekdg lupe diri kalo dh lawa cun comey cute dan ramai peminat la kononye, mule la suke komplen2x kate pakwe mcm tu la mcm ni la mcm2x la.. kepada kaum pompuan sekalian..kita kene jage pendirian kita sendiri okesh?kalo nk merungut pun, sedar la kita tak la seperfect mana pun wpun kita cantik (ehekss anugerah tuhan yg plg cantik )


for the gf of the story...you are the luckiest gurl to have such a bf...susah tau nk carik bf yg btol2x sudi asik2x b'kepit jekk dgn kita (hua2x tp jgn la slalu sgt kepit smpai x stadi) ..sbb most men that i've found...diaorg ni ske men gem n hangin out with their men friends rather than their gf sgt la...tp tak semua la cm2..depends la what type of guys...it's the same with gurl gak...ade gak gurl tak suke kuar slalu sgt dgn bf diaorg sbb tkt jemu ke ape dan mcm2x la...well it depends on both of the partner... It depends on yourself on how you want to create the style of your relationship but must be fair with each other..